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I'm in the mood to torture, feel like hurting, I don't know what I'll do next.
Well actually I do know somethings so I will write my ideas down. What has put me in the mood for this is the wild weather outside, Playing online with my boy toy ( not much of a boy as he is only a bit younger, but a toy as I get to play with him) and because I have Whiskey gnawing on my arm.
Now for my evil and not so evil ideas.
1. Tie a naked male to the bed, make him hard and happy then let in a very playful cat who like to play with rod like objects. Evil yes I think so, cruel? Not to the cat.
2. I currently have cold hands so its my inspiration. Dripping ice cold water on to the guy mentioned above. Not somewhere nice like his chest, but on his nice warm and hard cock.
3. I though of this one awhile ago. On a hard cock put one champagne cage and do it up. ( For those that don't know what I mean the little wire cage thingie that keeps the cork on)
Now those were ideas to do to men. Now for the female ideas.
4. I have a number of bi/poly female friends who I have played with over time. Take two bi females, tie them to opposite ends of a bed with a vibrator in each of their pussies ( sorry if the word offends). They are able to reach the other person one just with their feet, but can't touch their own. But unknown to them both would be on a remote control, turning one up would turn the other down. Neither of them able to orgasm while the other is. All the while I will be tormenting each of them with their favorite thing, man, woman or toy keeping them on the edge of pleasure. Denial is mean more than evil.
5. Tying a lovely woman to a bed and having a hard cock bobbing in her face ( note she loves cock) but all the while being unable to suck it. Then having the owner of the cock make out with another guy over her body. Their bodies just toughing her, all the while she gets hotter and hornier, but is unable to do anything. Then the two guys will get her close to orgasm but stop just before she peaks so as to pleasure each other again. All while she watches unable to move or do anything. They make each other orgasm, but nowhere near her mouth so she misses out on the taste she so wants. Then they let her orgasm with a simple word of come for us.
6. Well this one is personal, but I am not this cruel. My dear flatmate is out tonight at a party the next city over. Aeryn has a thing for the army guy down the road. I was considering sending her a message asking if it was ok for him to stay the night in her bed while she was out of town.
I decided that this idea was cruel and mean. As she cares for him alot and well would be upset about not being here while he was. ( The weather meant he stayed home)
Thats all I have for now, but as I have been in a sexy mood of late might write about that.
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Age gaps
When is old too old, when it comes to dating?
As we get older age gaps become less important, its more about who we are as people. But at what age does this become appropriate? As teenagers in high school we tend to date people in the same classes as ourselves so they are about the same age as us. But when is it ok to widen the gap?
At 16 here in New Zealand we become considered adults, in the fact we are legally allowed to have sex, for many of us this is the point when the dating rules change. It becomes socially acceptable for us to date older people, but at the same time it is no longer acceptable to date any one younger than a year younger or under 16. Is this because of the assumption that once you turn 16 you automatically have the mentality of an adult? Or is it because of something else?
From 16 onwards you are no longer considered a child when it comes to sexual acts and actions, and legally you are treated as such. But on the other hand the criminal age is 17 so where is the line and who has the power of discretion? At this stage the police and Children's Social services do. They decide what course of action will be taken, prosecution or counseling be the two most common options. This all depends on the age gap and the maturity of the teenagers.
While at 16 it seems ok to date older people, sometimes socially it is still isn't, all depending on the persons situation in life, are you working or are you still in school? While a 16 year old and a 19 year old is not much of a gap, their life situations create a different gap, the same could be said for a 40 year old and a 20 year old what is it that make it work?
So as we get older its not the age that creates the diffulties in reality its the life situations that does. Or in other words the generational differences. What things in our lives have made us who we are or what things do we do that define us. Hobbies, media, events all help widen and lessen social gaps
From personal experience I was once a 17 year old still at high school dating a 23 year old, and as I was still at school this created a social gap between us, yet when I was 19 and repeating my senior year I dated a 16 year old and as we were both at school there was no such gap. Now as an almost 24 year old my husband is 30. years ago some that age would have seemed ancient but that is not the case now. My parents have 8 years between them, my dad being the older, yet on most days of the week its my mum who seems to have all the maturity.
So when dose age really stop being an issue, legally its 16, but we all know some kid out there who was or is more mature at 14 than some of the adults we know.
At the same time I guess we have to look at what a person wants to get out of the relationship, is it companionship, sex or a combination of the two. Because as I see it, its not who or how old they are but its what a person gets up to on a date that should mater. As its that level of maturity that should mater. Not every adult wants to have sex but at the same time not every teenager just wants to hang out, with a maximum "action" of a kiss and cuddle.
As we get older age gaps become less important, its more about who we are as people. But at what age does this become appropriate? As teenagers in high school we tend to date people in the same classes as ourselves so they are about the same age as us. But when is it ok to widen the gap?
At 16 here in New Zealand we become considered adults, in the fact we are legally allowed to have sex, for many of us this is the point when the dating rules change. It becomes socially acceptable for us to date older people, but at the same time it is no longer acceptable to date any one younger than a year younger or under 16. Is this because of the assumption that once you turn 16 you automatically have the mentality of an adult? Or is it because of something else?
From 16 onwards you are no longer considered a child when it comes to sexual acts and actions, and legally you are treated as such. But on the other hand the criminal age is 17 so where is the line and who has the power of discretion? At this stage the police and Children's Social services do. They decide what course of action will be taken, prosecution or counseling be the two most common options. This all depends on the age gap and the maturity of the teenagers.
While at 16 it seems ok to date older people, sometimes socially it is still isn't, all depending on the persons situation in life, are you working or are you still in school? While a 16 year old and a 19 year old is not much of a gap, their life situations create a different gap, the same could be said for a 40 year old and a 20 year old what is it that make it work?
So as we get older its not the age that creates the diffulties in reality its the life situations that does. Or in other words the generational differences. What things in our lives have made us who we are or what things do we do that define us. Hobbies, media, events all help widen and lessen social gaps
From personal experience I was once a 17 year old still at high school dating a 23 year old, and as I was still at school this created a social gap between us, yet when I was 19 and repeating my senior year I dated a 16 year old and as we were both at school there was no such gap. Now as an almost 24 year old my husband is 30. years ago some that age would have seemed ancient but that is not the case now. My parents have 8 years between them, my dad being the older, yet on most days of the week its my mum who seems to have all the maturity.
So when dose age really stop being an issue, legally its 16, but we all know some kid out there who was or is more mature at 14 than some of the adults we know.
At the same time I guess we have to look at what a person wants to get out of the relationship, is it companionship, sex or a combination of the two. Because as I see it, its not who or how old they are but its what a person gets up to on a date that should mater. As its that level of maturity that should mater. Not every adult wants to have sex but at the same time not every teenager just wants to hang out, with a maximum "action" of a kiss and cuddle.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Boobs!
Breasts! There I have said it. But what is societies problem with them, have we over sexualized them? Today women are being told by health professionals that breast feeding is best for both them and their babies health, yet at the same time society is telling them, not to do it here but behind closed doors. A clear case on NIMBYism ( not in my backyard) at it's worst. Woman who don't breast feed are being made to feel guilty but at the same time woman who do are made to feel ashamed or dirty because they have to feed their baby.
Babies need feeding constainly and during a days shopping will need a couple of feeds, thirty years ago there were places a woman could go and rest, and also feed her baby without being made to feel embarrassed or ashamed about what she was doing. Yet today there are very few of those places left and for somewhere private in a public place woman are left toilet stalls and other uncomfortable places. Heaven forbid she try doing it out in the open.
Well I say screw that boobs were designed for babies not for adults, yes we do get a lot out of them when played with but think of their purpose to provide nourishment for young, not as people think to act as sex toys.
Large breasts are desired by men not as they think for their enjoyment, but is a primitive part of human mate selection, a woman with bigger boobs should give off more milk thus produce stronger children. So its all about children.
Boobs should have warning labels ; Not Suitable for over 3 years old!
Babies need feeding constainly and during a days shopping will need a couple of feeds, thirty years ago there were places a woman could go and rest, and also feed her baby without being made to feel embarrassed or ashamed about what she was doing. Yet today there are very few of those places left and for somewhere private in a public place woman are left toilet stalls and other uncomfortable places. Heaven forbid she try doing it out in the open.
Well I say screw that boobs were designed for babies not for adults, yes we do get a lot out of them when played with but think of their purpose to provide nourishment for young, not as people think to act as sex toys.
Large breasts are desired by men not as they think for their enjoyment, but is a primitive part of human mate selection, a woman with bigger boobs should give off more milk thus produce stronger children. So its all about children.
Boobs should have warning labels ; Not Suitable for over 3 years old!
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Trials and Tribulations
At the moment sex or making love with John has a purpose we are trying to have a baby, this is our second attempt, the first attempt at having a baby started last November and we managed to conceive at Christmas time. So we spent the summer looking forward to bringing a wonderful little life in to the world, but alas this was not to be. At our first scan at 11 weeks we found that it had died, mother nature had decided that it was not meant to be. So what was supposed to be a good time suddenly turned bad. I spent most of March in extreme physical and emotional pain. As I had had what they term as either a missed miscarriage or missed abortion, I had to go into the hospital and be induced. This meant I basically gave birth to what would have been my baby. Which is painful as I had contractions and dilation, just like women who get to give birth to healthy living babies.
So now we go though the trials of testing for ovulation, hoping for a missed period, and when if a period happens being down and feeling knocked out. So fingers crossed John scores a hole in one again. One step at a time until we reach the finish line of a healthy and happy baby.
Saturday, May 24, 2008
A cast list
I thought I had better keep a cast list of who was who, every name is taken from a science fiction show. Each character they are named after has a similar personality as them, but not necessarily the same relationships.
John~ My dear and loving husband, who like the character he is named after is ever so slightly crazy. Some times not knowing if he is coming or going due to his MPD ( Multiple Personality's).
Aeryn~ My flatmate and girlfriend, she handles tough guy situations very well, but crying woman and relationships she either runs from or comes across as aloof, but deep down is a very loving person and would fight for the ones she loves.
Whiskey~ My insane black and white cat. We got him as a stray foundling, his mother was a stray and he was found in Johns fathers wood pile, thats where he was born. His mother was caught and taken to the SPCA and Whiskey and his brothers and sisters were left abandoned. So john and I decided to take him in and love him. From the picture on the side you can see why. He is about 8 weeks old there. Rest in Peace - He died on the 28th of July.
Trance Gemini (The future version) ~ Johns secondary and lover, a truly wonderful woman who is kind, caring, giving and very loving person. Not to mention very sensual and sexual. Trance is the person who would drive half an hour to help a friend bury a cat. She goes out of her way to help those she loves. I consider myself lucky to have her as a friend. In the past we have been lovers but our relationship has changed, but over time I hope that we might grow into something bigger and better than it was before.
Rodney Skinner ( The Invisible Man) ~ How to describe him, that is a hard question. Rodney is a person from my life before all the bad stuff happened. He is more of a pervert than anyone that I know. Intelligent and driven, but also a closet geek. He will try most things at least once. Rodney was my boyfriend when I was 14, and now that we are adults we can get up to much more. He is at the moment my online guy to play with ( currently hoping to play in person).
Will up date as I add to the list
Sci-fi
Farscape
League of Extraordinary Gentlemen
Andromeda
John~ My dear and loving husband, who like the character he is named after is ever so slightly crazy. Some times not knowing if he is coming or going due to his MPD ( Multiple Personality's).
Aeryn~ My flatmate and girlfriend, she handles tough guy situations very well, but crying woman and relationships she either runs from or comes across as aloof, but deep down is a very loving person and would fight for the ones she loves.
Whiskey~ My insane black and white cat. We got him as a stray foundling, his mother was a stray and he was found in Johns fathers wood pile, thats where he was born. His mother was caught and taken to the SPCA and Whiskey and his brothers and sisters were left abandoned. So john and I decided to take him in and love him. From the picture on the side you can see why. He is about 8 weeks old there. Rest in Peace - He died on the 28th of July.
Trance Gemini (The future version) ~ Johns secondary and lover, a truly wonderful woman who is kind, caring, giving and very loving person. Not to mention very sensual and sexual. Trance is the person who would drive half an hour to help a friend bury a cat. She goes out of her way to help those she loves. I consider myself lucky to have her as a friend. In the past we have been lovers but our relationship has changed, but over time I hope that we might grow into something bigger and better than it was before.
Rodney Skinner ( The Invisible Man) ~ How to describe him, that is a hard question. Rodney is a person from my life before all the bad stuff happened. He is more of a pervert than anyone that I know. Intelligent and driven, but also a closet geek. He will try most things at least once. Rodney was my boyfriend when I was 14, and now that we are adults we can get up to much more. He is at the moment my online guy to play with ( currently hoping to play in person).
Will up date as I add to the list
Sci-fi
Farscape
League of Extraordinary Gentlemen
Andromeda
A Start
Here goes nothing, I want a space to be myself, to be sexy, spontaneous, to laugh and cry. This is where I have chosen it to be.
The name cat by a fire, I feel reflects my home where at this moment I have a small black and white cat named Whiskey sitting by a fire. He looks at the flames like he is hypnotized, I get glared at when I break his view of the fire.
Who am I? Besides someone who is owned by a cat ( people own dogs, cats own people ), I am a woman who looks after a husband and flatmate, I do the cooking and cleaning, laundry and dishes. Basically I am a housewife, and I love it. Some days I get lots done, other days I sit back and read a book or play sims2. But what ever I do Whiskey tends to be my little shadow. Good times and bad my little shadow is there, sometimes that is a comfort and other times it is a nuance.
I think of myself as being very sexual, I love sex, but I love making love to my husband the most, as when I do I feel like I am one with him, while at the same time flying high but without the drugs.
I am openly bisexual, and both me and my husband are polyamorous and have an open marriage.
Our flatmate is my girlfriend for want of a better word to describe her while John my husband has a different girlfriend and lover who is also poly and happens to be pansexual and a old lover of mine who I hope one day when my head is screwed on better to get back together with.
The name cat by a fire, I feel reflects my home where at this moment I have a small black and white cat named Whiskey sitting by a fire. He looks at the flames like he is hypnotized, I get glared at when I break his view of the fire.
Who am I? Besides someone who is owned by a cat ( people own dogs, cats own people ), I am a woman who looks after a husband and flatmate, I do the cooking and cleaning, laundry and dishes. Basically I am a housewife, and I love it. Some days I get lots done, other days I sit back and read a book or play sims2. But what ever I do Whiskey tends to be my little shadow. Good times and bad my little shadow is there, sometimes that is a comfort and other times it is a nuance.
I think of myself as being very sexual, I love sex, but I love making love to my husband the most, as when I do I feel like I am one with him, while at the same time flying high but without the drugs.
I am openly bisexual, and both me and my husband are polyamorous and have an open marriage.
Our flatmate is my girlfriend for want of a better word to describe her while John my husband has a different girlfriend and lover who is also poly and happens to be pansexual and a old lover of mine who I hope one day when my head is screwed on better to get back together with.
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