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Normally in the poly world the saying is relationship broken add more people but in this case, man broken stop all relationships, three to be precise. For a woman who has no idea of his attentions. This is a man who for the past few years has lived and breathed Poly and kink - bdsm, and is now going to live a vanilla life. What the hell is up with that? Can someone seriously change their sexual apatite? But also what if the woman he wants isn't interested? He would have given up 3 wonderful woman for what a ghost on the horizon. As my dear man has said 3 birds in hand is better than the ghost of one in the bush.

I for one, could not change who I was for someone, and changing your self for an unknown is not fair on the person you're changing for. They never get the real you, and if this is for someone who you see as a potential longterm, is this fair ? They never get the chance to decide based on the truth, where is the trust? I for one like the fact that I know all my husbands likes and dislikes, I know what turns him on and off. If a relationship that you want to take further is based on half truths of who you are, what happens when you can't handle going without what you have given up? The woman you now are with gets hurt.

But what about the other side of the coin, if the woman who you are changing for and have given up whats enjoyable in your life for doesn't want you. What do you do? As in the process of giving things up the bridges between you and the 3 lovely ladies have been burnt. What next?

This has all come about as Johns lover and girlfriend Trance has been dumped for the second time by a secondary of hers, she gave him a second chance and he has thrown away her and 2 others he was with for a woman who he has only just met and isn't even in the dating phase with yet. Whats more he was thoughtless with how he did it.
Men really should study more, Physics can be applied to everyday life situations all the time. Newtons law of motion - For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This applies to how you treat people and handle situations as well as when a car hits a wall.